Well. It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. I’ll be honest with you here. I just couldn’t keep up. It’s hard when something has to give because of everything else going on.
Have you ever had to give something up even when you didn’t want to?
It was hard at first. I felt like I was letting myself down because I enjoy both reading other blogs and writing my own.
I also felt like I was letting a blogger friend down when I had to tell her I couldn’t be part of our weekly link up any longer. I enjoyed it but I couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel.
It’s getting to be that time of year that just gets busy. Then a lot of really great things came into play and the blog just had to be put on a back burner.
It’s okay. I know my readers are full of grace and are willing to extend it!
For that, I thank you.
It’s that time again. I’m late getting this up and I apologize. Once in a while life gets in the way. We can only do what we can do!
Better late than never!
My first feature is from Rachael over at DiAmOnDs In ThE rOuGh!
She is talking about pregnancy, single parenthood, and abortion all in one post entitled When You Realize You Can No Longer Be Silent.
I can’t even do her post justice with a synopsis but I can say that the fact that she is speaking from experience is what I think makes this post amazing. It’s easy to form an opinion but I truly believe once you’ve experienced something those opinions can alter and may even change.
Her post was right in time for National Infant and Pregnancy Loss week last week.
Thank you Rachael!
My second feature is from Dwaine at Intentionally Yours.
One word : powerful. Wow.
Many of us know the pain that can come with distancing yourself from someone. It is no picnic to make this kind of decision with a friend or loved one.
Dwaine writes from a place of peace. He knows he is doing what he has to do for the prodigal in his life.
Releasing The Prodigal is worth the read!!
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It’s definitely something you don’t forget. The feeling. The words. The truth. The pain. The after.
I don’t think it’s talked about enough. When it happened to me, I knew one person I could turn to. We weren’t even that close but I knew her and knew she’d miscarried.
She ended up being my saving grace.
I didn’t need people to offer me their take on why it happened. I certainly didn’t need to be told that it was probably God’s will. Or the insinuation that my baby most likely had a deformity and this is why it happened.
What I needed was someone that would understand and listen. I needed someone to be there for me and understand where I was during that time.
I needed to know that it was okay to grieve. I needed to know that it was okay to be angry and joyful when my friends were all having new babies. It was helpful to know that it was okay to hurt and be sad.
I’m not sure why it’s a topic that is not shared too often. Since I went through it I talk about it all the time. I want to keep those babies in the forefront of my mind. I don’t want to forget them. They are part of my family even though they are in heaven. We mention them in our prayers every single night.
I often think about how life would be different and that’s hard. It’s not that I’m not happy with what I already have, I’m just still wonder what could have been. What would they look like? How would they get along with their siblings? The questions are endless.
Are you still grieving a loss? Do you have someone to talk with about it? Is there someone in your life that can just listen to you vent?
If not, please try to find one person you can share with. It will be one of the most freeing things you’ll do to help you get over the loss. Email me if you need to. kelly (at) exceptionalistic (dot) com. I’m happy to listen. I understand and I’ve been there.
I fell into a trap!
The trap of doing for everyone else except myself. That is not healthy!!
I’m here to tell you that if you are in the same boat I am, it’s okay to work on you. It’s okay to do things that make you happy! It’s okay to work on you.
Here are a few things I’ve started doing and it’s helping me feel like I’m taking care of myself again.
I’m also here to tell you that it’s okay to take care of you. In fact, it’s necessary!
- Spending quality time with the family. This is non-negotiable for me. I wish I could give every waking hour to my kids but the fact is I can’t. I multiple jobs, a house, family, friends, a husband, and myself. When it’s their time, it’s their time. This means no interruptions if at all possible!
- Eating better! There’s something weird that happens after you’d have kids and are in your 30′s. That metabolism just isn’t what it used to be.
- Exercise. I’ve taken up yoga for now. After Insanity and T25 I wanted something less stressful on my back and my mind. I like it. I still can’t turn my mind off but I’m working on it!!
- Spending time with friends. This week was the ultimate for me! I got to see six of my most favorite people on this planet all in one week. This is amazing because four of them live two or more hours away from me. The bottom line is we’ve been making the time to see those we care about even during busy seasons and life changes.
- Reading and growing! This is a big one for me. It’s easy to get caught up in other things and forget to take time to read. Right now I’m reading Undivided Mom. It’s changing the way I look at working from home.
- It’s okay to say no. Well. This one seems self-explanatory but it’s really not. For some reason we feel we need to be supermom or superwoman and take on too much. I do it. In fact, I’m still doing it. I’ve learned though that the world is not going to end if I say no.
More on all of these later but for now, here’s what I’m working on in my life. I don’t know about you but I’m a better wife and mom when I’m focused and refreshed. The things that are important come before anything else.
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