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Forced to unplug {Into the Word Wednesday}

I actually love these times.

This week I was forced to unplug.  The house where I was working didn’t have internet.  What?!?  Yes, you read that correctly.

Therefore my normal blogging / internet time was shut down.  Completely shut down!

I could have been angry and frustrated (which normally I probably would have been).  Instead I chose to embrace it as a blessing.  I felt peaceful even though I wasn’t getting anything done. Or so I thought.

Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

– 2 Corinthians 1:2

Although I had so many things I needed to get done, it was nice.  I had my trusty Kindle so I could actually start reading one of the 412 books I have waiting for me.

The main one being my amazing Bible app which I had kinda, sorta forgotten all about.  Yikes!  That’s not good.

I played a little solitaire since I couldn’t play Words with Friends due to no connection.  It was peaceful.  It was serene.

I love that He knows exactly what I need when I need it. 

I needed the break.  I wouldn’t have taken it because it’s not in my personality to allow things to sit.  If there is something to do, I need to get it done.  No procrastination.  No delay.  It has to happen now so I can get satisfaction from crossing it off my forever-long to-do list. 

That isn’t always His plan. I need to remember that. 

Does anyone else need a huge kick in the butt to take a break? 

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Communication {How to Maintain Your High-Maintenance Marriage}

Communication in a marriage can mean a number of different things.  It can mean not holding a grudge (talking it out), sharing feelings about potential miscommunications, or even withholding information (ex: a purchase that should not have occurred). 

A little background….

I always wanted to be a stay at home mom.  I wanted to raise a family and run a household.  Nothing else really.  I still feel that way at times although I do feel fulfilled by a few things I love to do on my own. 

In the beginning, it was pretty rough.  I felt as if all the housework fell on me.  I was working full time but then also suddenly had this household to run in my spare time.  Needless to say I started to burn out. 

I didn’t communicate to my husband that I was exhausted and needed help.  I should have.

Instead I started to feel resentful.  My husband didn’t know I needed help.  I hadn’t communicated this to him.  I kept my feelings to myself hoping and praying that he’d ‘see’ that I could use a hand.  Well, he never did see it.  I wanted him to read my mind and know exactly what I needed.

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To him, he figured if I needed help I’d ask.  Yes, that does make perfect sense.  Am I the only one that wishes their husband would just figure it out?  I hope I’m not the only one.

Here was my beef. 

Let’s start with a show of hands.  Does your man notice when the toilet needs to be cleaned, remember the last time the sheets were changed, or even think about cleaning out the fridge?  Mine didn’t either. 

He hadn’t had this experience before either, yet I somehow expected him to jump into and know what it took to run a household.  As women, I think we see things that need to be done while guys tend to wait until someone asks them to do it.

So we’d go round and round about why he didn’t notice that the garbage can was filled to the brim.  We’d argue about why he couldn’t see that the bathtub needed to be cleaned out.  I’d sit in silence and fume about all the things that needed to be done yet I’d say nothing about it. 

I didn’t want to be his mother and by giving him ‘chores’ but I felt this was what our relationship had become.  So, I waited and fumed. 

In a marriage, I can tell you this: silence is NOT the answer.  <– Tweet this

So fast-forward almost 12 years.  We have figured out what works for us.  It took us a few years after we got married then once we had kids we had to figure out the new responsibilities too. 

So…here is what works for us communication-wise. 

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After multiple arguments about him not helping as much and my not volunteering that I actually needed help, we finally  have a system. 

I create a to-do list of things that need to be done.  We have one list of items that we each pick and choose from, then cross off when we’ve completed them.

I no longer feel like I’m the mom giving him chores.  He feels more organized that he knows what he can work on to help out around the house.  It’s a win-win. 

It works for us.  It works really well in fact!!  It works so well that he doesn’t use the list as much.  He now notices when things need to be cleaned, straightened, or fixed. 

If you are newly married, take it from me.  It does get better!   It’s an adjustment period for both of you. 

Oftentimes we want our knight in shining armor to be perfect.  We want him to know our every need, cater to each and every one of our moods, and have no imperfections of his own.

Obviously this is not reality.  If it were, I think life would be pretty boring!!

Is expecting your husband to read your mind something you need to work on too?  I’d love to know I’m not alone! 

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I’m linking up with some amazing ladies for this series on marriage.  

Take a moment to read each and every one of them and let us know if you learned something along the way!! 

Kayse @ KaysePratt.com

Monica @ Elevate Ideas

Emily @ Primitive Roads

Jamie @ Brown Paper and Strings

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Getting It Together by Kayse Pratt {Product Review}

Attention moms!

Imagine being so organized that you have a free hour each day to do what you want.

How would you spend that hour? 

Would you…

  • Take a bath with a glass of wine?
  • Read a book while the little one naps?
  • Watch your favorite episode of  Friends?
  • Actually create something you’ve pinned on Pinterest?

Have you struggled with organizing your life after kids?

I’ve had the opportunity to review Getting It Together by Kayse Pratt. 

 

Let me tell you.  I’ve used a few Kayse’s printables for a few months now.  I love them.  She has thought of everything we need to make us feel more put together. 

I’ve had more than one occasion when I needed a piece of information but totally forgot where I placed it.   Has that ever happened to you?

Reading through Kayse’s e-book has kicked me into high gear to use each and every one of them.  You can either print them at home or order them through your local printing shop. 

I actually printed a few of the blog post schedules and laminated them.  I then can write on them for a month and erase as each week passes. 

I actually printed the perpetual birthday calendar off twice.  I use one for kids and one for adults.  It’s just too overwhelming to put them all together.  At least for me!  I like to send cards to the little ones for their birthday so this helps me keep better track. 

 

Here are some details about the book:

  • The release date is today : December 31, 2012.
  • It will be FREE once you subscribe to Kayse’s newsletter.  You can do that here. 
  • The e-book includes 30 cute and functional printables! 
  • If you prefer to purchase your PDF file you can do that here
  • You can purchase a copy for your Kindle here.  Then you can visit the link (included in the book) to download your printables. 

If you are on Twitter you are welcome to join Kayse (and a few hundred of her closest friends) on Thursday, January 3rd at 7pm PST.  Use the hashtag #gettingittogether to join in and discuss New Year’s Resolutions, Home Management tips, and much more! 

Finally…enter the giveaway below! 

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It’s here!!!

I’m so excited about this that I had to share about it. Did you take advantage of the $40 off a $40 purchase at Paper Coterie that I shared on Facebook a few weeks ago?  I hope so!!

Here’s my new planner that cost me $7 in shipping. That’s it!  Thanks Paper Coterie!

I’m excited to see if this planner has what it takes to handle my crazy schedule. Between work, the boy’s schedules (hubby included), blog schedule and family activities, I’ve yet to find a planner that is compact enough but big enough to handle it all!!

My current planner goes through January 2013 so I’m not quite ready to use it but I’m SO excited about it!

I wasn’t asked by Paper Coterie to review this planner. I just had to tell you about it!  Here’s another view!

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Excitement….chaos….remorse oh my!

Hmmm…where to begin.  It all began last week, four days ago to be exact.  It was a complete spur of the moment decision. During my blog travels to find some new blogger friends I stumbled onto a blog named Finding Hope. YES, YES, YES!!  I immediately connected with the author. We seemed to have a lot in common.  Would this truly be where I found my hope?

Finding Hope
 

Things have been crazy here lately. Companies closing down, other companies on the downturn, my husband going back to school full time, wilder than normal kids and no time for really anything other than the day to day.  I felt as if I was drowning. It’s up to me to keep this family running during this next year and I’m feeling more than overwhelmed (can we say triple overwhelmed?!) about what I need to do. I wanted to do something I wanted to do instead off always what I must do. Not necessarily in a selfish way but I needed some quiet time alone with Him. I’ve known for a while. This is my chance to rekindle.

The most current post on this blog was about an upcoming bible study about the Proverbs 31 woman through Good Morning Girls. A woman I so desperately would love to be but is it at all possible? I decided in all of about 15 seconds that I was going to do this. I email the author of the blog to join the group.  A three month, five day a week study about this ‘perfect’ woman.  Two to three verses per day – how hard can that be? I can surely find 5-10 minutes of quiet time to myself to study and meditate on these verses so I can be an integral part of this group.

I’m all set…printed my study guide, printed the e-book, joined the Facebook discussion group.  I am ready to go.

Day one. Monday May 14th. I struggled with finding my quiet time. I really wanted to get up early so I could grab an iced coffee and enjoy this quiet time. I set my alarm and of course the children that never get up early get up 10 minutes before my alarm is due to go off. Failure. Fast forward through the day. I find my 15 minutes at the very end of the day. 11:45pm. I’m wondering what I’ve gotten myself into. Was this a mistake? Was this not the right time? Everyone else in the group seems so put together. Great…now I’m intimidated but determined.

Day two. Same story. I’m now wondering if day three will pick up. I’ll be sure to let you know!

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