Do you know how to accept a compliment?
It’s really only one simple step.
Ignore all of your internal thoughts and reactions then say thank you!
Now seriously. What’s with us? By us, I mean women mostly. I’ve never given a guy a compliment and have him slough it off like it was ill deserved they way women do.
I’d venture to say most of us do it. I’ve done it. Have you? <—— tweet
Dedicate an entire day to watching how you react either verbally or even emotionally the next time someone compliments you.
Does it make you feel good? Do you shy away? Is there something on the tip of your tongue that you want to say to get the spotlight off of you?
You should feel amazing after someone compliments you.
Recently I was in a situation where two older ladies (grandmothers) were talking amongst themselves about me in front of me. It was really very sweet. I have a heart for older people. Both of my grandmothers have passed and other grandmothers often remind me of them.
It was early in the morning. I was handing over the baby that I night nanny for and they started just talking about me. They talked about my hair and how beautiful they thought it was. They said my skin was just glowing and I have a very classic look about me. I listened, quietly, unsure of how to respond.
In my heart, I was aching because they sounded so much like my own grandmothers. It was almost as if my grandmothers were speaking through these women. All of the things I was hearing, I’d heard before when I was younger. I heard these exact things from my grandmothers who saw me without all the maintenance.
They then turned the conversation to include me. They told me all of the beautiful words they had just said to me. To my face.
My initial reaction was to stammer and downplay what they were saying. After all, it was 7am and I’m sans makeup standing there in my pajamas (which is how I go to work every night). They were seeing me as me. No fancy clothes. No foundation, powder, or mascara. It was me.
There was nothing I could say except thank you. I couldn’t explain anything away. It was truly just me in all my comfy-pant and wild-curly-non-product-filled-hair glory.
You know what?
It felt good to just say thank you. To accept the compliments as though they were true. Heck, they were true!! If this is what they saw, then it must be true.
Who was I to decide that whatever they were telling me wasn’t the truth?
It was then that I realized how hurtful it would be if I just dismissed it like it was nothing.
There’s nothing quite like being smacked in the face with a lesson at 7am when you’re exhausted from being on newborn duty!
I’d love to hear the last compliment you received and how you responded!