It all began way back when I was almost ten years old.
That is when I went from being an only child to having a sibling. It was HUGE! I had always had a heart for children. I loved babies and little kids. It’s part of why I do what I do now in my life.
I was like a second mom. I learned all about diapering, bottles, formula, doctor appointments, and everything in between.
It definitely prepared me for when I had my own children. I was more prepared than a lot of my friends who had never been around a baby at all until they had their own.
It didn’t prepare me for the decisions. The masses of decisions that go along with parenting.
Let’s get real here. Parenting is HARD WORK. It’s hard. And it is also work! <– tweet-worthy
There are daily decisions from the minute you become pregnant. What will you eat during your pregnancy? Will you have a natural birth or use medication during labor? Will you use cloth diapers or store-bought? Will you nurse or bottle feed?
As the kids get older, it does not get any easier. There are a million different food choices out there. A little less than a million schooling choices. There is clothing, toys, video games, television, and all of the decisions on what you will or won’t allow in your household.
We are all in this together. We should be uniting as moms and dads across this great country. We should be respecting each other and understanding what each of us is going through.
Instead, it’s like a Parenting World War 3 out there at times. Everyone on has an opinion on how we should parent. The issue is that no matter how you deliver it, unasked-for-advice is criticism. It is just disguised as ‘helping’ or ‘caring.’ In fact, it comes across as pushy and inconsiderate.
I have my own thoughts about parenting and those things work for me. They probably do not work for my sister-in-law or my best friend. I keep my mouth shut on subjects unless I am asked specifically. Why? Because I remember how it felt when my first child was born. Everyone and their dad (oh, and my father-in-law….eewwww) asked me how nursing was going, whether I was going to make my own baby food, and if I had thought about schooling choices yet.
Why can’t we just remember back to that time when we were new to this. Remember how we felt finally holding our beautiful, sweet, loving baby in our arms and give each other a little room to breathe?
We do not need to jump on people about their choices. We do not need to impart our knowledge on every new mom we come into contact with. We certainly do not need to leave blog post comments condemning another mom’s choice of ___________ (insert anything in there, really).
Let’s all just agree that parenting is hard. It’s a difficult job with low pay, little to no praise, and the most rewarding job we’ll ever have. <– tweet-worthy
Let’s love on each other instead of trying to take each other down.
Okay….GO! Go bless another mom with some words of encouragement, a home-cooked meal, or by just letting her vent.
Let’s make mommy-hood a better place starting today!