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Laughter {How to MaintainYour High-Maintenance Marriage}

 

Why did you fall in love with your husband?

Have I ever told how why I fell in love with mine?

I fell in love with him partly because of laughter.  That may sound strange but it is one of the main reasons.

You see, I don’t show emotions like excitement well.  I don’t know why.  It’s as if I’m so excited my heart and mind forgot to share the information with my face.

Whether it’s opening gifts on Christmas morning or having something exciting happening in my life.  I talk about it but it doesn’t show through very well.

Now let me tell you a little about him.

My husband might as well have majored in laughter in college.  He is by far the funniest man I’ve ever met.

We met in middle school.  We were inseparable from 8th grade on.  Best friends.  I mean the kind of best friend you do everything with.  We’d go to movies, theme parks, and even carpooled to school every day.

We always had a great time together.

Fast forward to our first semester in college.  He went away.  I stayed home and commuted.  We didn’t see each other as much.   I started to miss him so much, looking forward to the next time I’d see him.  I realized how much I wasn’t fulfilled in the relationship I was in.  I realized how much I loved him.

Why? 

When he was gone, I didn’t laugh as much.  I didn’t have as fun a life without him as I did with him.  Of course he was still in my life but in a different way.

He always made me laugh.  When I say that he made me laugh, I mean made me belly laugh.   I’ve already told you I don’t do that very often. 

Laughter is such an important part of life, let alone marriage.  It can help keep our marriages fresh.  It’s one way we can relieve tension during the rough times.  It’s how we can keep ourselves from stressing out during busy times of our lives. 

As I’ve said before, things have been a little crazy this past year. 

These days I am sometimes so stretched that I feel like ElastiGirl from the Incredibles.  I feel like if I stretch one more inch I may burst.

What keeps me going?

These days it’s looking forward to an evening of comedy-watching with my husband.  A few times a week we have date night in our living room.  We put on our favorite television comedy, forget for a moment about the world, sit together, and just laugh.

Have you laughed with your husband recently?  Do you joke around?  Play games?  Watch funny movies? 

 

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Check out other perspectives on laughter below!!

Kayse @ KaysePratt.com

Monica @ Elevate Ideas

Emily @ Primitive Roads

Jamie @ Brown Paper and Strings

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R = Relax {All About Me}

I chose the word relax because it is almost like a foreign language to me.

I haven’t quite grasped the idea.  I mean, I understand the definition of the word.  I just can’t seem to turn off the to-do list that is in my head.  This could be one thing that I will never master.

If you could sit down with my husband and ask him, he’d tell you that I’ve lightened up a little but I still have a hard time relaxing when I know there is so much to be done. 

Here are a few things I do try to do during moments that I can turn my brain off.

1.  Snuggle : I enjoy snuggling with my babies.  Reading to them, playing with them, or teaching them several of the next few of my favorites.

3.  Photograph : I love to head out just for the purpose of taking pictures.  I enjoy walking around and finding something beautiful to capture. 

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2.  Read :  I love to read.  It’s relaxing plus I almost always either learn something or am entertained. 

3.  Bake :  My grandma started teaching me how to bake probably when I was three or four years old.  We would make cookies or pies on a weekly basis. 

4.  Play : I love to play Words With Friends.  This is another love that came from my grandma.  We would play scrabble every single time I visited.  She was so smart yet somehow I would win more often than not. 

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5.  Exercise : This will sound crazy but I love to work out.  I don’t always have the motivation to get it done but once I’m dressed and ready I’m good!  I’m getting ready to start Insanity for the second time after losing a bit of weight (almost 35lbs. now). 

These are all things I’ll be working on this year.  I need more me time in my life. 

Let’s be honest here.  I am a much better wife and mom when I’ve had a little bit of alone relaxation time. 

What do you like to do to relax? 

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12 Days of Christmas {Day 12 : Christmas Meaning}

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What does Christmas mean to me? 

It’s tough.  Of course it means the birth of our Lord.  It means celebrating His birthday. 

In addition to this, it means a time of slowing down.  Taking a break from the hustle and bustle of life.  Easing up on the stress that bogs us down on a daily basis. 

It’s spending time with family.  It’s remembering the meaning of this life.

Remembering that it’s not the bills, the house, the job, or even the stuff.  It’s the lives that we can affect, the kids that we raise, and the parents we make proud. 

It’s the celebrating, the time spent together, and the memories we make. 

It’s remembering that the gifts under the tree are objects to show our affection to those we love.  Remembering it’s not to replace time we spend with them. 

I want my kids to remember the amazing times we spend rather than the gifts they were given. 

That’s what I remember.

I can hardly remember a single gift from growing up but I remember the Christmas Eve nights spent with one set of grandparents.  Christmas morning spent with the other set.

How do you feel about Christmas?  What will your kids remember? 

12 Days of Christmas 2012

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The Neglected Four Letter Word {Into the Word Wednesday}

Well, this week was a tough one.  I didn’t feel particularly moved to share anything.  I have been praying that something would come and nothing.  Sure I could choose a verse and share about it but I want to be real on this blog.   More real than I’ve ever been. Even if no one ever reads these words it’s coming from my heart and is therapeutic for me!

As I was thinking and praying, praying and thinking it hit me. 

The neglected four letter word.  It may be different for you but for me that word is rest.  We don’t always have to be full on going, going, going.  This is very hard for me. I rarely rest and relax. It’s just not in me to sit. 

I’m always working toward accomplishment.  It doesn’t matter what that might be.  Cleaning the toilet, the mirror or the sink while I’m in there just because it’s one less thing to do later.  Getting the kids dressed for bed while simultaneously pulling out clothes that no longer fit.  If the kids are in bed and we are watching a movie, I am probably organizing paperwork or folding laundry.  It’s a never-ending cycle.  I keep waiting for that bell to ding signaling the end of it.  You know, similar to the washer that dings to alert that it’s time to switch it over.   It never seems to end. 

Then this week I read this:

In the Easy-To-Read version of the bible it translates as this:  ‘It is a waste of time for you to get up early and stay up late trying to make a living. The Lord provides for those He loves even while they are sleeping.‘ 

What a relief!!!  I am allowed to take a rest. I am allowed to relax.  Something my husband begs me to do on a regular basis.  Now there are definitely seasons that require more work and less sleep than others.  This isn’t permission to sit and pray that God will do all the work.  He can see our hard work.

I feel accomplished if I’ve completed a dozen tasks during the day.  However, at the end of the day I feel as though I’ve missed it.  Have I enjoyed myself? Nope.  I’ve worked so hard I’ve forgotten to live and enjoy.  I’m too busy to take the time to do something for me.  Here’s how we’ll remedy that.  Find 20 minutes in your day whether it’s during nap time, before the crowd wakes up or after they are in bed.  Can you do that?

Listen up moms. I know you are out there working hard.  Okay hard isn’t good enough. I’m guessing you are working your fingers to the bone.  I am begging and pleading with you.  Please take 20 minutes today for you.  I don’t think you heard me…you sitting at your computer browsing Facebook or Pinterest.  Take 20 minutes.  What would you do?

Here are some ideas!

  • Read a book (not a kids book)
  • Listen to your iPod while doing NOTHING else
  • Sit on the porch with a cup of coffee or tea
  • Take a bath (what?!?)
  • Paint your toenails
  • Give yourself a facial
  • Browse a catalog, circle what you like (Christmas is coming!)
  • Make yourself a meal and eat it in peace
  • Exercise

How will you spend your 20 minutes?  Please leave a comment and I’ll add the ideas to this list!

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–Join my co-hostesses and I this week for Into The Word Wednesday!

Becky at Tales of Beauty for Ashes

Sarah at Fontenot Four

Kelly at The Houtz House Party

Falen at Upward Not Inward

Kelly at Exceptionalistic (looks like you found me!)

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1. Link up about something you are learning this week.

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Making the most of the unplanned.

Another awesome photo opportunity that almost wasn’t.  On a recent vacation we took a walk on the docks with the kids.  There were a few birds flying around when the kids started tossing their snacks toward them.  In less than 10  minutes there were at least 30 birds coming to snatch a bite!  We went back to the house 3 separate times for refills.  Over 150 pictures later we had an amazing free afternoon feeding the birds.

These are the types of things the kids will remember when they grow up.  Things we can’t do as readily in our home town.  I hope we always take notice of these opportunities for fun!!

What’s your favorite unplanned experience?

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