Why Striving for Perfection Causes Missed Opportunities {Into the Word Wednesday}

I’m learning a little more each day that it’s okay that I am not perfect.  Learning slowly.  Really slowly.

I’d venture to say I’m a perfectionist.  I tend to want things to go my way, the right way, and the most efficient way.  I am a planner.  I am so much of a planner that any kind of impromptu activity makes me a little uneasy. 

Immediately I start thinking about how to nix plans to make room for this new, uninvited activity.  I have learned to adapt and know that striving for perfection can certainly cause me to miss opportunities.  I am not so rigid that I always miss them.  I just freak out a little bit at first!

I talked about it back here but last year on vacation we spent almost 4 hours feeding the birds.  These birds…

As I look at my life and how busy it’s been it’s okay not to be this exact idea of what I think I must be.  That every plan doesn’t have to go off without a hitch.  For instance, this post was supposed to be up yesterday.

It’s okay. (Gasp!)

If you are a perfectionist like me, take the time to step back.  Take time to enjoy the birds like we did on vacation last year.  It was completely unplanned but ended up being a highlight of the trip.  Had we forced ourselves to ignore the opportunity and do what we had planned, we would have missed out on all of this.  

Ephesians 5: 15-16 leads us right into the way we are to live our lives abiding by the ten commandments.  The words in this verse are exactly what I needed to be reminded of this week. 

‘Be very careful, then, how you live — not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.’ 

Making the most of every opportunity might not be my way of doing things.  It could be that He is putting something in my path that I need to pay attention to.  Something that I need to see.  An opportunity to follow Him and what He desires of me. 

I knew without a doubt that I needed some family time last night after a very, very long day at work.  It was a longer shift than I’m normally scheduled and then I got out 45 minutes past my scheduled time to leave.  I had seen my husband and kids for 15 minutes in the morning and by the time I got home it was 30 minutes until bedtime. 

They needed me.  I could see it.  I could feel it.  More importantly, I needed it. 

For an instance I was worried about not having this post up right on time.  I was concerned with something that didn’t matter as much as the hour of playtime with the kids (by letting them stay up late) followed by an impromptu in-home date night with my husband.  No offense to any of you but this was definitely something that our family needed last night.   

If I had powered through like usual checking items off my list, I would have missed out on some wonderful quality family time. 

I will definitely allow these opportunities interrupt my vision of perfection more often!

How about you? 


–Join my co-hostesses and I this week for Into The Word Wednesday!

Becky at Tales of Beauty for Ashes

Sarah at Fontenot Four

Falen at Upward Not Inward

Kelly at Exceptionalistic (looks like you found me!)

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4. Check out (and comment) other people’s blogs to bless them today!

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Sneak Peak: The Ultimate Homemaking eBook Bundle!!!

I am going to give you a sneak peak that is one of the most amazing values I’ve ever seen!

Are you a reader?

Are you a mom?

Are you a human?

If you are any of the three, it means you are totally worthy of this incredible deal.  Wow!

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This library of homemaking helps include topics such as mothering, organization and cleaning, recipes and kitchen helps, home education, spiritual growth for both moms and kids, home décor and DIY, pregnancy and baby care, frugal living, health and fitness, and even work-from-home and financial tools.

So, what do you think? 

This collection will only be available from 9 a.m. EST on April 29th to 11:59 p.m. EST on May 4th.  Be sure to mark your calendars to come back here and order!!  


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I’ll see you then!!!

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Communication {How to Maintain Your High-Maintenance Marriage}

Communication in a marriage can mean a number of different things.  It can mean not holding a grudge (talking it out), sharing feelings about potential miscommunications, or even withholding information (ex: a purchase that should not have occurred). 

A little background….

I always wanted to be a stay at home mom.  I wanted to raise a family and run a household.  Nothing else really.  I still feel that way at times although I do feel fulfilled by a few things I love to do on my own. 

In the beginning, it was pretty rough.  I felt as if all the housework fell on me.  I was working full time but then also suddenly had this household to run in my spare time.  Needless to say I started to burn out. 

I didn’t communicate to my husband that I was exhausted and needed help.  I should have.

Instead I started to feel resentful.  My husband didn’t know I needed help.  I hadn’t communicated this to him.  I kept my feelings to myself hoping and praying that he’d ‘see’ that I could use a hand.  Well, he never did see it.  I wanted him to read my mind and know exactly what I needed. - My husband is not a mind reader. My husband is not a mind reader. My husband is not a mind reader.

To him, he figured if I needed help I’d ask.  Yes, that does make perfect sense.  Am I the only one that wishes their husband would just figure it out?  I hope I’m not the only one.

Here was my beef. 

Let’s start with a show of hands.  Does your man notice when the toilet needs to be cleaned, remember the last time the sheets were changed, or even think about cleaning out the fridge?  Mine didn’t either. 

He hadn’t had this experience before either, yet I somehow expected him to jump into and know what it took to run a household.  As women, I think we see things that need to be done while guys tend to wait until someone asks them to do it.

So we’d go round and round about why he didn’t notice that the garbage can was filled to the brim.  We’d argue about why he couldn’t see that the bathtub needed to be cleaned out.  I’d sit in silence and fume about all the things that needed to be done yet I’d say nothing about it. 

I didn’t want to be his mother and by giving him ‘chores’ but I felt this was what our relationship had become.  So, I waited and fumed. 

In a marriage, I can tell you this: silence is NOT the answer.  <– Tweet this

So fast-forward almost 12 years.  We have figured out what works for us.  It took us a few years after we got married then once we had kids we had to figure out the new responsibilities too. 

So…here is what works for us communication-wise. 


After multiple arguments about him not helping as much and my not volunteering that I actually needed help, we finally  have a system. 

I create a to-do list of things that need to be done.  We have one list of items that we each pick and choose from, then cross off when we’ve completed them.

I no longer feel like I’m the mom giving him chores.  He feels more organized that he knows what he can work on to help out around the house.  It’s a win-win. 

It works for us.  It works really well in fact!!  It works so well that he doesn’t use the list as much.  He now notices when things need to be cleaned, straightened, or fixed. 

If you are newly married, take it from me.  It does get better!   It’s an adjustment period for both of you. 

Oftentimes we want our knight in shining armor to be perfect.  We want him to know our every need, cater to each and every one of our moods, and have no imperfections of his own.

Obviously this is not reality.  If it were, I think life would be pretty boring!!

Is expecting your husband to read your mind something you need to work on too?  I’d love to know I’m not alone! 


I’m linking up with some amazing ladies for this series on marriage.  

Take a moment to read each and every one of them and let us know if you learned something along the way!! 

Kayse @

Monica @ Elevate Ideas

Emily @ Primitive Roads

Jamie @ Brown Paper and Strings

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Getting It Together by Kayse Pratt {Product Review}

Attention moms!

Imagine being so organized that you have a free hour each day to do what you want.

How would you spend that hour? 

Would you…

  • Take a bath with a glass of wine?
  • Read a book while the little one naps?
  • Watch your favorite episode of  Friends?
  • Actually create something you’ve pinned on Pinterest?

Have you struggled with organizing your life after kids?

I’ve had the opportunity to review Getting It Together by Kayse Pratt. 


Let me tell you.  I’ve used a few Kayse’s printables for a few months now.  I love them.  She has thought of everything we need to make us feel more put together. 

I’ve had more than one occasion when I needed a piece of information but totally forgot where I placed it.   Has that ever happened to you?

Reading through Kayse’s e-book has kicked me into high gear to use each and every one of them.  You can either print them at home or order them through your local printing shop. 

I actually printed a few of the blog post schedules and laminated them.  I then can write on them for a month and erase as each week passes. 

I actually printed the perpetual birthday calendar off twice.  I use one for kids and one for adults.  It’s just too overwhelming to put them all together.  At least for me!  I like to send cards to the little ones for their birthday so this helps me keep better track. 


Here are some details about the book:

  • The release date is today : December 31, 2012.
  • It will be FREE once you subscribe to Kayse’s newsletter.  You can do that here. 
  • The e-book includes 30 cute and functional printables! 
  • If you prefer to purchase your PDF file you can do that here
  • You can purchase a copy for your Kindle here.  Then you can visit the link (included in the book) to download your printables. 

If you are on Twitter you are welcome to join Kayse (and a few hundred of her closest friends) on Thursday, January 3rd at 7pm PST.  Use the hashtag #gettingittogether to join in and discuss New Year’s Resolutions, Home Management tips, and much more! 

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O = Organized {All About Me}

I love to be organized.

I prefer everything to be in its place.  It only makes sense, right?  Some of my favorite things to shop for are items that will help me keep my life organized.

Oh, and don’t even get me started on the amazing things I see on Pinterest on an almost daily basis.  It’s inspiring for sure.

See, I said I love to be organized.  I didn’t say I am always organized.  Every so often I find that there is a new way, a better way, or an easier way to keep things.

My favorite store for many of these items?  The Container Store!

Here are a few of my favorite items. 

These are on our bathroom sink to hide most of the toiletries we use.  Some of course are out because I use them more than once a day! 

Laundry closet.  Cute bins that make me smile and contain the laundry/cleaning supplies. 

The fun cubbies in the living room that we use to hide the toys, toys, and more toys.  I talked about this back on the G post too! Can you tell I love these?!?

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